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Hi there....Thought I would share a perfect example of an ADD moment:

I responded to a msg [from this site, actually], thanking someone profoundly for all of their work providing us with resources she took the time to copy & share for on-line [and other] DBT services. I thought it was great. I responded....then got an e-mail @ another response to the discussion, so I went back to it and was scrolling.....I hadn't realized I responded, yet again, to a post that had been left a year ago! The only reason that I even caught that is I happened to read what I thought was yesterday's response when, in fact, it was my response from the year before. Before I realized that, I was confused because, on the one hand, I was profusely expressing my thanks; but I just remember thinking: "I don't remember writing that part [?!]". That's when I caught the date difference [HA!]. The bigger [HA] is that this certainly won't be the 1st time I've done this....nor will it be the last, no doubt!

Maybe this time I'll be more likely to remember I HAVE these resources to utilize! :)

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A couple of more memorable events come to mind:

Like the time, when I was a kid, sick with a cold, I grabbed what I thought was the unique can of [something like Vicks] vapor spray. I was spraying it on my pillow....no smell like I was used to....so I sprayed some more....sprayed the bedding....my PJ's....more in the air...."What the hell" I say to myself. "I know I have a cold, but I should at least smell a little of that strong vapor smell [?]." So, I look at the can: Bug killer! S----!!! [bet you wouldn't find any "bed bugs" in there for awhile! :)]

Then there was the time I had a nasty cold sore. One of the doctors I worked with mentioned something that would be useful to put on it. I go home and grab, what I thought, was my usual cold sore medicine. I looked at the ingredients and there was that ingredient the doctor had mentioned: "Must be good stuff" I say confidently to myself as I apply it. It burned like hell....a lot more than usual.  "Well, it must be really working," I say to myself. I go walking down the stairs and, as I reach the bottom step, I happen to notice the front of the container states "Wart Remover". I had visions of what wart remover does to one's skin and realized I just put this on my face, by my lip and loudly exclaimed in my panicked voice: "Wart remover ???!!!" I ran up the steps and started washing my face as my mother laughed at yet another one of my inattentive moments.

Ah, and the most recent one....I was in some public building [of course] that had a beautiful culturally rich mural on the wall which had suddenly attracted my attention. Glued to the wall upon which it hung, I started towards it and about killed myself falling over some furniture I didn't anticipate being in my way.

At least you are consistently in a grateful space. That is a good place to be in psychically and it can't be bad for people to hear thank you more than once.

IAM VERY AWKWARD. MY RITALIN DOESN'T HELP WITH THAT SO IM ALWAYS DOING  SOMETHING DITZY

Clumsiness is just par for the course with an inattentive disorder. I don't think Ritalin would have ever been effective for me. I tend to respond better to the Adderall class [and even IT could be better]. My theory as to why Ritalin is "more effective for kids" is because a lot of us inattentive types may have managed to slide by with our quietness....not causing any trouble....more a nuisance to teachers with our "inability to follow instructions" and our constant "daydreaming" [I think of it more as displaced consciousness], etc. It's when we get older and are put in positions of ever increasing responsibility that trouble starts to show up [hence, a problem for "adults"....all of us true ADHDpi types who have slipped through the cracks & start crawling out].

I could have really benefited from mindfulness practices way back then....instead, we got yelled at [or worse], for "not paying attention" and for our constant "careless, selfish, stubborn, etc." forgetfulness. Perhaps more damage came from that getting drilled in year after year, rather than a lack of medication [not that I wouldn't have benefited from meds, but - when I think of how a trial of Ritalin made me feel and know that that is what I would have been treated with....well, I'd go for the kinder treatment from others!]. In fact, I'm still not convinced that even all "Inattentive Types" are the same and, hence, why some don't have an optimum response from the standard variety of available meds for ADHD. Pharmacologically, there is something missing, but....whole different topic [how "ADD" of me :)].

On, yet, a whole OTHER topic [and reverting back to the funny theme]: Here is an update from my early post that triggered the discussion of this topic:

MY UPDATE from 5/4/12 post:

Hey, forgot all about this particular [May 4] post and, guess what? I’m already wondering: “HMMMmmm….I wonder what particular resources I was referring to?….Will I remember them when I see them, yet again?”

Fortunately, I’ve always been like this, so I’m not too worried; especially knowing there is an actual diagnosis for it [and one other than “Minimal Brain Disorder", even though I can relate to feeling like that at times!].

WOW!! My daughters and and I have learned to laugh at these times and we call them ADD MOMENTS!!

Or (sorry blondes) a blonde moment!

Faith said:

A couple of more memorable events come to mind:

Like the time, when I was a kid, sick with a cold, I grabbed what I thought was the unique can of [something like Vicks] vapor spray. I was spraying it on my pillow....no smell like I was used to....so I sprayed some more....sprayed the bedding....my PJ's....more in the air...."What the hell" I say to myself. "I know I have a cold, but I should at least smell a little of that strong vapor smell [?]." So, I look at the can: Bug killer! S----!!! [bet you wouldn't find any "bed bugs" in there for awhile! :)]

Then there was the time I had a nasty cold sore. One of the doctors I worked with mentioned something that would be useful to put on it. I go home and grab, what I thought, was my usual cold sore medicine. I looked at the ingredients and there was that ingredient the doctor had mentioned: "Must be good stuff" I say confidently to myself as I apply it. It burned like hell....a lot more than usual.  "Well, it must be really working," I say to myself. I go walking down the stairs and, as I reach the bottom step, I happen to notice the front of the container states "Wart Remover". I had visions of what wart remover does to one's skin and realized I just put this on my face, by my lip and loudly exclaimed in my panicked voice: "Wart remover ???!!!" I ran up the steps and started washing my face as my mother laughed at yet another one of my inattentive moments.

Ah, and the most recent one....I was in some public building [of course] that had a beautiful culturally rich mural on the wall which had suddenly attracted my attention. Glued to the wall upon which it hung, I started towards it and about killed myself falling over some furniture I didn't anticipate being in my way.

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