Guess I'm just looking for moral support here. Will be 49 yrs. old this month and am going through divorce. The separation was initiated by my soon-to-be ex husband over 3 yrs. ago, and he had me officially served this past December, (which made it hard to care about getting ready for Christmas.)
Divorce wasn't my choice at all, but he refused any counseling after 18 yrs. of marriage. Two of the biggest contributing factors were his midlife crisis, and him not being able to handle my ADD any more. -----Not surprisingly, I put things off till the very last second and things got screwed up & I missed my first filing deadline. He could've filed a default judgment against me, but fortunately chose not to.
It will be official in mid June, but I still have to fill out some financial paperwork, and an application for assistance from mortgage company, etc. ---A bit of cruel irony isn't it? (Really struggling with wading through all the paperwork for a divorce, which was due in large part to my ADD in the first place.
It's probably time to break down and hire a professional organizer, as I have in the past a couple of times. (Two different friends have offered to help me get organized, but the thought of the friends seeing the chaos is way too upsetting. Guess the expense would be worth it in the long run.)
Anyway, apologies for going on and on here... Am guessing there are plenty of women out there though who have dealt with these issues though, and am just wondering if you have any tips? P.S. Lest I paint too dark a picture here, countless wonderful things/situations have come out of this whole break up, along with phenomenal personal growth. Thanks for "listening".