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The World in my head is more interesting than you!!!

Okay, today I have let my ADD run amok. I have had to deal with things and people that are just not interesting or just down right annoying so I have given myself permission to freely daydream and enter my "alternate universe" where I have a whole different lifestyle, job, personality, body type, you name it, in my head. And, at least just for today, the world in my head is more interesting than what is happening in reality. And, just for right now, I am going to let it flow, and enjoy it. That's right, no surpressing it, no denying it, just acceptance. Welcome to Sandyland, I am the mayor and everybody loves me here. Just for today, if anyone ask me "honey, are you paying attention" the answer is "Why no, no I'm not" and I am gonna feel good about it. It is so freeing to sometimes give myself permission to be myself. Is this how gay people feel when they come out of the closet? So goodbye website, I am going back to running amok. Amok, amok, amok. And no, I am not having a nervous breakdown, I just need to be mentally free of reigning in my inattentiveness from time to time. That in and of itself is very exhausting. Probably why we are all so tired all of the time. Somebody should do a study about that!!

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Permalink Reply by Liz on April 18, 2011 at 7:31pm

Running amok sounds better than running a marathon. Have fun!

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Permalink Reply by Marvelanne on June 20, 2011 at 3:45pm

You are taking an attention vacation! :-) -My fifteen year old son does this very consciously, sayinghe does not want to use the ritilan as he just wants to "float"! I am the same way. And, I think the "floating" is condusive to creativity (Ritilan is condusive to getting the bills paid).

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Permalink Reply by KellyB on June 20, 2011 at 4:16pm

attention vacation sounds cool!! I am such a day dreamer that sometimes people think am staring, when i just zone out momentarally! I find i am creative what ever. the concerta helps me focus on my creativity and channel it. my god i can hyperfocus on my art or music!!

I like days where can just "be me" it is exhausting having to conform to work, and everyone else expectations. Kellyland is great.

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Permalink Reply by DistractableDeb on June 27, 2011 at 11:09am

My son and I take drug vacations, too. It is very pleasant to do! Just be sure you've checked your calendar before you take time off. I've messed up pretty badly by waking up on a weekend and deciding I want a drug holiday, not checking my calendar and then being very sorry to have let someone down later in the day.

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Permalink Reply by DistractableDeb on June 27, 2011 at 11:17am

Hyperfocus is a gift to creative people, scientists, engineers - I would not be as successful today as I am if I didn't have the gift of hyperfocus, but what small amount of success and recognition I've earned came late, and will never fully flower, because I went untreated for so many years. I wish I'd had early intervention, and learned when and how to use the gift while connecting to reality (meds do this for me) when I was younger. I envy my son's self-knowledge at such a young age. He uses the meds during school and assignments, but takes days off whenever he can, and he's the getting credit and recognition he'll need to get ahead.

KellyB said:

attention vacation sounds cool!! I am such a day dreamer that sometimes people think am staring, when i just zone out momentarally! I find i am creative what ever. the concerta helps me focus on my creativity and channel it. my god i can hyperfocus on my art or music!!

I like days where can just "be me" it is exhausting having to conform to work, and everyone else expectations. Kellyland is great.

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Permalink Reply by Lindsey on June 28, 2011 at 11:44am

I used to say that I drank to make other people interesting!

True enough that I just don't find that many people have that much meaningful to say. I crack myself up though, all the time!

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Permalink Reply by KellyB on June 28, 2011 at 5:36pm

I find write song lyrics i get a verse and chorus and get bored of the song. or it's forgotten as i am tired. I also like to draw and paint. i have been known to draw and hours pass by. like seconds. oops. hyperfocus.

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Permalink Reply by Toni on June 30, 2011 at 4:35pm

Lindsey, I am SO with you on that one. Sometimes (often) I cannot tolerate "social" gatherings because I am made physically uncomfortable by small talk! So funny, for YEARS I have said "I crack me up!"

I've known I have ADD for over 8 years... but until just now, I had no idea that some of my quirkiness is ADD-related. Talk about a Eureka Moment!

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Lindsey said:

I used to say that I drank to make other people interesting!

True enough that I just don't find that many people have that much meaningful to say. I crack myself up though, all the time!

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Permalink Reply by Christina on June 30, 2011 at 10:40pm

Well said!

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Permalink Reply by Dazy on July 3, 2011 at 1:38am

Do any of your daydreams include yourself singing like Whitney Houston or skating like Dorthy Hamil in front of an audience or doing anything fantastic to briefly shed the stupid image..........a stupid image is part of ADD is it not?

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Permalink Reply by saninbham on July 5, 2011 at 11:03am

Of course they do. In fact, most of my daydreams are about my alternate universe where I am all things bright and shiny LOL!! Why daydream about the same stuff I'm living. I already know that. It's way more exciting to daydream about possibilities that are probably never going to happen (no matter how much I try, I cannot sing like Whitney Houston, well, maybe crack head Whitney, but definitely not old Whitney LOL). Oh, and um...Dazy, you dated yourself with Dorothy Hamil. Not many really young people know her (I always loved her hair when I was younger!!LOL)

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Permalink Reply by KellyB on August 30, 2011 at 7:42am

I have a constant radio station going on in my head. people can be talking to me and i do not notice. their mouths move and their speech just does not register!!