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ADD & AD/HD Dual Diagnosis


ADD & AD/HD Dual Diagnosis

A group for women with ADD or AD/HD who also have a secondary Axis I diagnosis, such as depression, bipolar mood disorder, anxiety, schizophrenia, or schizoaffective disorder. Get support for your ADD or AD/HD, as well as your co-occurring diagnosis.

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Old Tricks

Started by Dana. Last reply by CZ Mar 17, 2013. 2 Replies

Hey all,I moved back to my old town and for a small amount of time I felt fine (ish). Now that I've settled in, I feel as I remember always feeling. Alone. Depressed. AdHd (extra hyper). Lost.…Continue

Interesting study about genetic similarities with ADHD, autism, etc.

Started by Nomadd. Last reply by kathy barber Nov 30, 2012. 10 Replies

Hi,I've had a suspicion that there is some correlation for a while now (I'm sure I'm not the only one here either. :)  Just thought I'd share:  Study finds new ADHD genes, links susceptibility with…Continue

Anxiety Disorders and ADHD

Started by Onedia Sylvest. Last reply by Frances Oct 23, 2012. 11 Replies

I have struggled with GAD for most of my life with some acute periods about the time I was in my early 50's (now almost 60) .  In fact I grew up in a family with a parent who was undiagnosed with…Continue

ADD and PTSD and Anxiety

Started by justtrying. Last reply by Frances Oct 23, 2012. 4 Replies

Being diagnosed with ADD has changed things for me but it is the most recent diagnosis on the list so after the initial "oh yeah! that's why I do that!" reaction along with a feeling of relief that…Continue

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Comment by Dana on April 9, 2013 at 6:27pm

Today I was talking to my brother (who has his share of symptoms, but is not diagnosed), and we were discussing my ADHD and Depression. I was trying to explain to him that I don't need a trigger to feel depressed about something, I have depression.

Then I attempted to explain what I feel like having ADHD. I do take med's for both. He states that he can't understand because he can't see the disorders by looking at me. I can appreciate that.  Though I am pretty hyper...hahaha He goes on to say, it seems as if I am taking pills for everything I feel, and not doing anything for myself...such as work harder, deal with your sadness, just stop being hyper, focus, etc. It wasn't a back talk but it got me thinking. Saying you're having depression or ADHD, isn't a statement that impacts everyone, because they are so commonly discussed. How many people have thought I'm faking, or using them as an excuse as a result of the constent talk about disorders? I know my Mom doesn't believe in my disorders, and tells me to just slow down and think before speaking. She gives these clever suggestions. If it was that easy, I would have done it at the age of 6 hahahaha. Just thinking.



Comment by blackpanther on October 26, 2012 at 11:11am

I was diagnosed with suspected bi-polar at the begining of the year and started meds for that but as that only seemed to help stable my mood swings (and the life rollacoaster!) i was told that the ADHD i was diagnosed as a child with (but not treated) still seemed very present now and was sent to an ADHD clinc for a full diagnostic test which came back that i had scored full marks!!!(for the first time ever in a test! Lol!)  I'm now on meds for both and have no idea whats going to happen next?! Has anyone ealse been though this process and knows what happens from here?


Comment by Sera on July 20, 2012 at 12:47am

Hi LuAnn,

I've also found that the most difficult part about it is isolating one problem from the other. I've spent years trying to curb one specific problem (specifically the HD portion) and found myself getting seriously depressed or growing neurotic tendencies (biting my nails, etc) and nothing really ever got better.

I'm only recently considering the possibility that I have multiple problems which is why it has been so hard to find one isolated solution. Will be keeping tabs on this to see if any information I peruse helps me out and try to share it too.

Comment by LuAnn on September 24, 2011 at 10:40am

Hi Mora and Dana -

I went through I period of time before I knew exactly what was wrong with me that I had to disconnect from my family.  We were all pretty co-dependent and all involved in the other's business, so until I learned some boundaries, it was best.  As I got clear and figured out that I was okay with or without their approval, I was able to slowly reintegrate.  But, when I have a depressive episode, I am very succeptible to their judgment - even now - two decades later.  


I literally sent a family email a few years ago during a very difficult depression asking them to please stop referring to me as crazy, even in jest.  I told them it hurt me deeply and it is the same as taunting someone who a physical disability by calling them denigrating names.  They finally got it.  Part of the problem was that I let it go on without telling them how I felt and asking them to stop.  As long as my meds are straight, I am pretty functional.  Although, even with meds, I have periods of depression in the winter and spring when the time changes.


Being in a large workplace has taught me more about my limits. While working as a freelancer or contractor, either at home or only in the office for brief periods of time with little contact with others, I am great!  lol  Fortunately, I have been in private practice most of my adult life.  I never last in a traditional job for more than a couple of years.  I lost interest, then start getting bored and decide to leave before I screw things up.  I am usually able to maintain work with those places as a contractor, which suits me better.  Now that I am married and can be on my husband's insurance I won't feel the need for a full time job so much, I hope.  Freelancing aka private practice works for me and he is supportive of that.


Just keep posting here - we will respond eventually if nobody is around at the time.  Keep the faith, as we used to say in high school!





Comment by Dana on September 24, 2011 at 10:11am
Mora, if there is one thing that you can be certain of and not fear is that is are not alone. ADHD is more complex as society makes it out to be. The lay person's joking about it and the pop culture articles and broadcasts. ADHD has a sneaky way of entering and potentially tearing  part every area of your world. As for the going on and on with your posts, we all do it, ADHD people are long winded, especially if you don't have many to discuss this side of you with, post away, I do and it helps. I empathize with the family situation your enduring my family too, does not see a "problem" with me and justifies my inappropriate behaviors. As I said many times on here, my Mom calks it all up to my dislike for school, and "my low IQ." That is interesting considering I am in a PhD program...hmmmm something about that statement may cue my Mom into other speculations, but it does not. So I stopped talking about it and am living the way that is best for me. When I was settling in on my anti depressants and still not using the correct formula, it was very hard for me to leave my home. I was overwhelming and I did not want to go or do anything. Now that the med's are appropriate I don't feel the same, I still hate the grocery store, but I think that may be for a separate post....hahahah. Good luck to you, and stop by frequently. It does help!
Comment by Mora on September 24, 2011 at 9:54am


I hope I'm doing this right.  I have difficulty figuring out how to do things correctly.

I have ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, Agorophobia and I'm a Hoarder. I guess you might say I qualify for this group.

I spent 60 years of my life wondering what was wrong with me.  One day  a co-worker 'accused' me of having ADD. That was when everyone seemed to be labeling everyone as having it, jokingly of course. I now resent it when people use the 'label' supposedly as a joke. Anyway, I thought maybe I better check out the symptoms to see if I was 'labeled' correctly.  My GOSH!  I found myself and suddenly knew who and 'what' I was all these years. I was SO elated. It didn't last long because NO ONE believed me when I told them.  These were my friends and family members.  They still can't wrap their heads around it all and have no idea how profound ADHD can be.  I got an official diagnoses but this didn't mean anything to anyone.  I couldn't get anyone to read or research my 'problem' so I could have some validation.  To this day, no one believes it is as debilitating as I say it is.  Frustration, then sadness, then depression insued. It stays with me all the time.  I want so much to have the people I know understand me, but they don't seem to believe it should make much difference to my life.  I believe they think I'm trying to use it as an excuse as to why I  have acted the way I have all my life. They just refuse to believe it is as damaging, emotionally, as it really is. They definitely don't understand how it can make me be so disorganized and impulsive as I've been all my life.


I'm depressed, I'm anxious, I'm SO afraid and my acrophobia is getting worse.  I have isolated myself to the point where I only talk to one sister.  She is not as judgmental as anyone else seems to be.

I live alone.  My children don't understand what is 'wrong' with me.  I talk to 2 of them via email.  The other 2 do not talk to me anymore and I have so isolated myself I never see anyone.  I don't even talk to my neighbors!  I manage to get out of the house twice a month to get groceries, but I'm SO afraid of driving and being out where I don't feel safe that I think I will start having groceries delivered.  I know it's not the 'right' thing to do, but for me and at this time of my life it feels safer.  I need to see a doctor to get meds, I know, and I also need therapy but, surprise!  they want you to come in to their office for that.  I can't do it....it is way out of my comfort zone.

There is so much more going on with me but I'll leave at that, for now.

Sorry, to take up so much space.  There is a LOT inside me.  I never talk to anyone about this, not even my sister.   I've tried, but as receptive as she is to listening, she is befuddled by the whole thing and I can see (feel?) that it makes her very uncomfortable.

Thanks for listening!



Comment by Julie Holmes on April 15, 2011 at 11:09am
I've updated the discussion forum with a post with links to prescription assistance programs, for those who are in need of psychiatric medications but cannot afford them. As I mentioned in my post, I am not sure whether the Schedule II controlled substances are included, but meds for bipolar, depression, and schizophrenia (and more) are. Hope it's helpful! TGIF!
Comment by cj on April 12, 2011 at 2:56am
Hi, thanks for the welcome.  Recently we moved out to the lake so I feel I have to go shopping with my husband as it is a larger endeavor so I do go out once a week.  It is a chore, though I take ativan on those days.
Comment by Julie Holmes on April 12, 2011 at 2:41am

Hi CJ -- welcome to the dual-diagnosis ADHD group! It's great to have you join us. Feel free to post at any time and if there's something we can give you virtual support on, please don't hesitate to ask/post.


You are a strong woman, managing depression, anxiety, agoraphobia, and ADHD. Are you able to get out of the house at all, or are you housebound? I also have anxiety and my symptoms include feeling unable or unwilling to leave the house at times. It's challenging, isn't it? Logically, I know that my fears are anxiety-induced and not based in reality (that's me, though -- this may be different for others), but that doesn't make them any less difficult to deal with.


Glad you have joined us! :)

Comment by cj on April 12, 2011 at 12:25am
Hi, I live with depression, anxiety, agoraphobia and add.

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