You sound like me!! If I don't have deadlines then alot of times it just doesn't get done. I would start with a TO DO list. Write everything down that you would like to get done. From there I would break all those tasks down and do a little everyday. Give yourself a little reward say after working 30 to 60 minutes on a task. Maybe a cup of tea and 15 minutes to do something you enjoy like surfing the net, watching tv, taking a walk, listening to music..... not sure what you enjoy and then go back to that task or start on a new one. I find once I get the motivation to start the task is not as bad as I thought.
I know how it feels - I found out why my life had been so difficult late 50's and had already found that I could not keep up the pretense at my job. I just kept getting lost in what I was supposed to be doing. Perhaps it is with increasing age that the symptoms of ADD get worse. I certainly believe that to be the case and my psychiatrist at the time agreed with me.
So, how to take it from here - first of all read and learn all you can about ADD and match up the areas of your life that are difficult with the information. Comparing notes here will be very helpful as we find in the Chat room that we all have quite similar lives and difficulties, and some very smart women there come up with great ideas of how they deal with these things. Also, finding folk who understand you is very liberating......I love the chats online - they always lift me higher. Just a suggestion Amy.
I was on anti-depressants too when I came to the correct diagnosis. 70% of women with ADD also have depression as it is a fairly natural result of the difficult life we have had to 'fit in' with the 'neurotypical' world (NT's) Some people have suggested that with the meds for ADD (I take Ritalin 20mg daily) the results are astounding - ability to concentrate, plan and carry out strategies, have SUCCESSES etc. gives a huge boost to morale and working with that, the need for the anti-depressants can be lifted - but only with your doc's approval of course.
Best wishes from me and all of us women here - I'm sure I can say that ;)
Keep in touch Amy - we know the road you are starting out on, having been there ourselves, and can possibly help more than those who have not.
I was so relieved after I realized I had ADD last month that I quit trying to cover it up and stopped caring about the to-do lists, post it notes and smart phone errand lists, reminders & alarms that had carried me through each day. Now I don't do anything and rarely leave the house. I'm retired and can't afford all the unfinished projects and impulsive shopping that used to push me forward. I'm still trying to keep up appearances with my friends so they don't know. I'm hoping this is only temporary.
My psychiatrist has never been much help so it's all up to me. I know I can do it - I just need to get focused!! haha, that sounds funny now but that is what I always told myself. This website will be a big help so thanks for sharing your experiences.
Hi Amy - we are both online at the moment - please see chat in bottom corner webpage.