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Organizing Buddies

I would like this to be a group where women can post the things they want to get accomplished (organized) and get support from others. We can be accountable to each other and push each other to get things done!!

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Organizing my Medicine Cabinet

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Okay, I hope this works and I don't sound like an idiot, lol. This is my first time trying to post a video. This is my "new" medicine cabinet and how I organized it. I also should have said that I chose clear boxes and things I could SEE through to make finding things easier. The small index card boxes I had before, but had never labeled them.

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just moved

Started by MARY MACEDO Feb 26. 0 Replies

I just moved into a brand new apartment a few months ago. The last tenant who lived in my apartment totally trashed and destroyed the apartment so I moved in and my boyfriend at the time was suppose…Continue

Creative Support

Started by DistractableDeb. Last reply by DistractableDeb Oct 2, 2013. 10 Replies

Creativity takes organization, too.  Would anybody like to check in on me to ask if I got final paper done?  I took a class this spring, and took an incomplete.  It's a difficult topic, I'm an older…Continue

Tags: procrastination, creativity, writing

Laundry Tips

Started by jen. Last reply by DistractableDeb Oct 2, 2013. 18 Replies

I thought we could start some posts were each of us adds our tips for doing things easier (or accomodating our ADD tendencies, lol)  This one is for .... guess..... laundry!!!! Ok, so here are…Continue

Still active? New to the group...

Started by momof2. Last reply by ADDMomofTwo Feb 17, 2013. 4 Replies

Hello All ~ I've just joined, and I really like the discussions that I have read so far. There have been a lot of helpful tips and tricks that have been written about. Is the Organizing Buddies part…Continue

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Comment by HoppingBunnyRabbitGal on November 19, 2013 at 2:35pm

Hello, thought I'd check this group out. I've been on the Forums awhile already.

I moved in with my friend to save money a little over a year ago. Before that I was in a too-small apartment for a year. Before that, I moved out of my deceased parents' foreclosed 3-BR with basement house. That was a nightmare.

This house is not large where I am now; my friend and I both are in the process of organizing our respective stuff in our respective areas. She is hoping to remodel in my area so the configuration of the rooms could be changing early next year.

I have a 10x20 storage unit that's costing me $$$ and I'm not willing to part with everything in it but some I am willing to part with. I'd like to look into getting a smaller unit and while switching over, haul away some things. I had abdominal hernia surgery for the 2nd time this year, though, and winter's coming on - and I'd need people to physically help carry the heavier items.

So I'll just have to play that by ear. It may be impossible to cobble together a team of helpers with the holidays drawing near, and it may be too cold to do a whole lot. I'd hoped to do way more this fall but it was busy - crises, a funeral, a bunch of stuff, and one thing and another.

I'm a creative, artsy person and tend to hoard supplies and still want to go buy more. Have improved somewhat on that from what I used to be years ago, but not completely broken the habits.

There's a lot more I could add but this is getting long enough for a first post. :)

Comment by Jane Aaron on November 9, 2013 at 2:43pm

Oh, CrazyDaze, you don't know how much I relate to your situation!  Many of my mother's things also belonged to her parents, sisters and other relatives (she had 8 siblings).  I have my grandmother's ancient trunk, filled with old letters and items from the 1800s which may have historical significance, crocheted bedspreads and pillows made by an aunt, and Rubbermaid bins of photos and assorted papers I can't face!  And, I lost my closest sibling, a brother, 8 years ago, and kept a number of his belongings - which multiplied when my mother died 3 1/2 years ago.

I also don't know what to do with things or where to start.  I know I must part with the 6' long harpsichord my brother built when he was a surgical resident, even though I love playing it and fondly remember helping him work on it from time to time.  I've been trying to gift it to a college in my home town for more than a year, but talking to the right person is problematic.  So, it seems there's little reward for making the decision to get rid of something you'd rather keep!

I, too, have an abundance of sewing and knitting materials, unfinished projects, and the many tools and raw materials a "fix it yourself" person keeps on hand.  Many sewing and knitting items are all over my living room, since that's where I end up working on them. 

Making decisions is hard for me, too.  My daughter, who lives several states away, has helped me a couple of times, but I've been unable to keep things organized afterwards.  She often says, "If we could take everything out, and bring in only what you want to keep it would help."  Because I make decisions so slowly, I'd likely need to put things in storage and "shop" through belongings to decide what came back in!  Financially, that would be tough.  I have been divorced for many years, left my last job to care for my mother the last two years of her life, and can't find work in my field - just menial, part-time work.  I've been living on money I saved for retirement, which wasn't enough to begin with, and chose to address my "stuff" before returning to work, fearing I'd procrastinate forever otherwise.  I'm worried that I'll never be able to find or keep work (I'm 64, but will need to work until I'm 70).  Because my current ADHD meds interfere with sleep, I can't predictably get out of bed in the mornings on just a couple hours' sleep - 3 or more days a week.  I think the lack of sleep contributes to being easily overwhelmed and making very slow progress, too.  The search for a psychiatrist to help with medication adjustment is just as thorny.  My internist writes my prescriptons now, but hasn't been helpful in suggesting other meds or addressing my sleep issues.  Have tried to get back in the psychiatry program at U KY for over a year, with no success.  Even CHADD is almost non-existent here.  I'm tempted to try Cincinnati (80 miles away), but don't know if my insurance will cover out of state providers.  Louisville is 70 miles away, but no one really specializes in this area.  I'm in the black hole of ADHD resources, and it's very frustrating, especially since I lived in Houston for 20 years, where they had everything! 

 

I've found ONE organizer, who actually has training and experience  working with hoarders and ADHDers.  She's expensive, but let's face it - I'm getting no where on my own!  I start with her next week, and she's suggested the garage come first, so it can serve as a staging area for sorting/purging/selling, etc.  I'm afraid to get too excited, even though it seems promising.  I'll definitely keep you posted on my progress!

 

Thanks so much for writing!  I was starting to think I'd never connect with anyone who understood!  How did it go with your freezer and shopping list?

Comment by CrazyDaze on November 5, 2013 at 12:53pm

Hi Jane, 

I am also new to the group.  This is my first post.   It is 11:48 AM and all I have done is make a cup of coffee and surf the net.  My intention today is to clean the freezer, make a shopping list and go to the store.  I have already ruled out the store trip!

Reading about your inheriting from your mother really struck a chord with me.  My mother was a very orderly person.  Our home was never disorganized.  When she died I was overwhelmed to find mountains of memorabilia. As an only child, it all came to me.  Not only did she have many of my childhood possessions (even the orderly notes she kept concerning my infant feeding times, how often I pooped, slept, cried),  but also the items that were passed down from my grandparents, two maiden aunts, a childless sister-in-law, and a lady we always included as in honorary aunt.  Needless to say, with ADD, I am beyond overwhelmed.  We had three yard sales after she passed away.  That was in 1993.  Now, as my husband and I look to downsizing, I am having to deal with the "antique treasures" I have been ignoring since then.  My two children will never have the connection to many family things that I do. They have not gotten permanently settled so I have their stuff, too. 

My main problem is not knowing what to do with everything. It is difficult for me to make decisions. I really have only a few things that I want to keep.  Do I just choose what I want and let an auctioneer come in and clean for me?  The problem is getting the house ready to sell before I would do that.

Oh, I haven't mentioned my own clutter.  "I might need that someday" is my mindset.  My sewing room walk-in closet is packed with fabric, books, yarn, craft supplies, and many unfinished projects..  I also like to do woodworking so the basement is filled with tools and wood.  Also I have intentions to mat and frame pictures so have a mat cutter and frames that were bargains.  I am also the house "handywoman".  Another hobby my husband and I share is growing African Violets. Thank goodness he isn't much for hobbies other than watching sports.  His problem is paper-hoarding.  He can't throw anything away and has no organizational skills.  He leaves piles everywhere. He is working two jobs that also end up bringing paper home with them.

It takes all my energy to clean our ten room house.  I can't stand clutter so I feel tied to housework to the point that it is difficult for me to stay out of the house for long.  I often wear out before I finish what I need to do so I don't have time for the hobbies.  If I attempt to work on reducing my extra clutter, the house, laundry, and meals suffer and that creates more anxiety.

We live away from major metropolitan areas so we have few resources for help with ADD.  Taking Vyvanse helps a bit but not enough.  We can't afford a house cleaner so it all rests on me. My husband is in the mental health profession so he is exhausted after work and we keep our 3 year old granddaughter every weekend to allow our son visitation. We have little time to work on the house together.  Both of our adopted adult children have ADHD so I am glad they are not living with us, too.

Well, it is now 12:52 pm and I still need to get things done.

Jane, you are not alone!

Comment by Jane Aaron on October 1, 2013 at 5:39pm

Thanks for your suggestions, Cindy.  Unfortunately, I'm without work at the moment, and can't really afford to pay the going rate for an organizer.  I have a couple of friends who will help with some tasks, and I'm planning to pay them, not only because I'll appreciate their help, but it will help me keep the work in perspective.

I went on the flylady site a long time ago.  Maybe I'll try it again.  Thanks, Cindy.

Comment by Cindy on October 1, 2013 at 5:13pm

http://www.flylady.net

Hi Jane, I'm sorry to hear of your troubles. I have the exact same troubles. I have hired someone to help me get my house organized. My family of 3 all have ADHD. And it's hard to keep up with the areas that have been organized. I know that there is a website called 

 

 

 

Comment by Jane Aaron on October 1, 2013 at 3:05pm

Hello out there!  I'm new to the group, and just learned that I missed a chat last night!  Rats!! 

I live in Lexington, KY, where I can find no support at all for women with ADHD, and I need organizing help big time!!  I was never a neat freak, but when my mother died and many things had to come to my house before I was ready, it created a huge problem.  I'm struggling for organization in any room, and it seems only to get worse!  It is hard for me to address areas that seem insurmountable, I often get overwhelmed, and "stuck", and even after spending time working on an area, picking it back up again is difficult.   (I get side tracked, it's time for lunch/dinner/an appointment, etc.)  I've created such a disaster with my piles of paper that things become urgent, and all organizing activity has to stop in order to locate something important or time sensitive.  I have functioned above this level most of my life, so it's disheartening to be facing it again!

 

I'm determined to address the stacks of paper on my computer table today.  I bought the De-Clutter 101 Workbook, and am using the task list to help me get started.  Unfortunately, there's no one to do the assignments but me, but I'm ready to attack the piles!  Anyone have advice or suggestions for me? 

 

 

 

Comment by AAmy on July 26, 2013 at 8:10pm

I just finished painting the bathroom. I bought the paint on 12/28...lol. I've been in a slump the past year and have had a hard time figuring out what to do and when to do it. Also tend to forget what I was going to do anyway! I have been on meds for a year and a half. It was great at first- was told that I could conquer the world, but alas unable to conquer new job and house and family at the same time:(

So here I am again, looking at support groups and helpful hints to try and pull myself back together. I try to do a little decluttering and cleaning up everyday. I try not to look at the whole picture(although my husband gets tired of not one room getting done). I keep forgetting to give myself a set time to work on a task. I have found in the past that is helpful. Tonight I am going to work on my baking cabinet in the kitchen. I think give myself 20 minutes...we will see how that goes. :) Thanks!

Comment by jill feinberg on June 3, 2013 at 9:07pm
I feel better than im not alone in these struggles,
Comment by Debi on April 22, 2013 at 11:28am

Kathleen, you can do it [I know ya can!]      : )

And -- ya know what?   If 5 minutes is too much for ya to start with, set the timer for maybe 2 or 3 minutes [and yes - I've had to do this before too!]   Sad, but so true.

 

The same with washing dishes, sometimes once I get started, I get motivated and get more done than I "planned" on but there are times and many of them when I've said that I'll wash 5 dishes and that would get me started.   And no, I never have tons of dishes either 'cuz I live by myself and that's probably what makes it even sadder, I suppose.    lol     Still, whatever it takes to get the job done [or to get the job started in that case.   lol]  

 

It probably sounds like i'm a lazy person but honestly -- I'm not,  I just get side-tracked [oh yeah ... this is an ADD forum so I guess you probably already figured that out, huh?   lol]  

 

Good luck and if ya want -- update 'n let me know how you do.  And remember -- even getting a little done is considered a success!    : ) 

 

Deb

 

 

Comment by Kathleen on April 21, 2013 at 11:50pm

*Debi-sorry

 

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