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Started this discussion. Last reply by Jennifer Jun. 27, 2009.
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Kimberly, My heart just broke for you for the dillemma you are in to do the best thing for your children. I breastfed my son and daughter until at least 3.5 (resulting in much criticism but I didn't care). This was many years b4 I had an inkling tha…
Thanks Ashley!! I'm going to look this up right away too!
Hey hun. I'm nursinng my 20 month old son and just got on meds myself. If you want to keep nursing, choose Ritalin or Adderall Rapid Release. I nurse in the morning before I take it, then around 4ish (Rapid Release is 4 hour so it's more than enough…
I think 6 months is fantastic! And the fact that you were able to do it for so long while you had older child to take care of is amazing. I felt guilty because I only breastfed 3 months with my first son because I had to go back to work, and 6 month…
I feel you I did the same, just weaned my 6months old. I feel horrendously guilty, I breastfed my oldest until she was almost 3. I'm a military wife and we are selling our house and moving from TN to NY. My husband was in an IED and needs surgery so…
Hi Kimberly,
By the time my oldest was evaluated at 3.5 yrs old, I knew he had ADHD. I suspected it possibly when he was 2.10 yrs old but I was in denial and my pediatrician didn't think he had any issues other than my bad parenting and him being a…
Even though my kids have never been diagnosed with ADHD and even though I suspect my daughter may have some ADHD qualities, my own opinion is that I would think it would be rather difficult to diagnose ADHD in toddlers or infants. So much of normal…
When did you *know* your child had ADHD? I mean, was it before you doctor would ever dare look into to it? Did you worry your child had ADHD as a toddler, and infant? Just wondering.
Hi Kimberly,
Being a parent is a tough job. Being a working parent, harder. Being a working, parent with ADHD and two little ones - whew!! I agree with Karen, the best thing is to weigh the options. I personally had to wean my children differently b…
Kimberly,
You are a fantastic mom as I know from reading things you have written before. It shows that you absolutely want to do what is best for them. I have no children but work with children as a pediatric nurse so I know a lot about kids. Breast…
I'm another ADHD mom that wants to put in her 2 cents even though it is way past the original posting. I just wanted to let you know that I also have 2 sons who are now 10 and 11 years old. I nursed them for about the same amount of time and the old…
Oh, Kimberly, I'm not quite sure where to start.
I want to point out a few things:
-what's best for mama is good for baby.
-there's no reason that I know of to assume that ADHD is related to breastfeeding.
-you are doing the absolute best you can fo…
Hi all of you.
I am Catholic (and Italian) and have lots of problems even going to Church for Saturday service. Perseverance is a HUGE problem for me...
But event worst is the fact that I seem to lack self-awareness completely... so how can I walk w…
Thank you for the reply. "Parent with more clarity," I like that way of putting it. We have not begun weening yet, waiting for him to start eating solids a bit better and to start putting on some weight, the boy is stretching out like a bean-pole th…
Hi Kat, welcome. I, too, am from California. I, too, felt the same way when I started taking medication. Glad it is helping you. Anyway, welcome!
Kim
Hi, Kimberly
I know it's been a while since you posted, but hey, I'm always willing to put my 2 cents in.
In proper, traditional ADD fashion, this is going to wander a bit (well, maybe more than a bit.)
About Calvin being ticked off about having…
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- At 2:55pm on April 19, 2009,
Susan said… - I am just learning how all of this works too. I wanted to send comments just to you but I didn't realize it would stay on your page. If there is a way to delete it you can do that. It would be neat to do a chat online (which I have never done that and don't know if I could figure it out or not). We have a 3 hour difference between coasts so probably would be difficult for us to figure out a time. You are the first person I have corresponded directly with. I am going to add you as a friend on my page if I can figure out how to do it. I actually love computers as I can type quickly but I wish I knew more about them.
I am a nurse and am working in the schools now - I have an elementary school and a high school. I have encountered so many children with AD/HD it is unreal. I have learned so much about AD/HD this year - so much. It is so much different than what is stated on paper. Heck, I've been knowing the symptoms but didn't know much or didn't have a clue that it was me. Now I understand what those words mean so I understand these kids. I am not comfortable yet in sharing with them that I have "it" too, but I am passionate about getting what they need for them and I know they can sense I care about them. I have several children whose parents do not want medicine for them which is their decision but the children are failing because they cannot pay attention and I just think they deserve a trial of it to see if it will help them. I am afraid that their self-esteem is being ruined. I had a good childhood and made excellent grades but I have low self-esteem too. I wonder and process how life might have been different, yet I think that I may not have done as well if I had known in some ways. I don't think they knew as much when I was coming along. God has revealed it to me in his time and I will try to find out why and what I can do with it. It isn't always easy to be up even with medicine. I am tired today. Take care! Susan
- At 7:19pm on April 17, 2009,
Susan said…
- Hi Kim,
I actually tried to respond on your blog last night but wasn't computer savvy enough to know which "thing" I had to check to get it to go and next thing I knew it was gone in flash. I was much too tired to recreate it so I will try again today as it was important to me to respond to you.
I loved reading your blog and not just the one on faith. It is difficult for me at times too. In fact, it is even hard on medication so I know that off of medication it would be hard. I think the way you put it and how I am trying to think about it too that God made me this way for a reason and he knows us inside and out so the effort we make even when it is not what we think it should be may be our best effort. Try to look at it that way as your prayer says. We ADDers are prone to hearing the negative message only and not the positive that is there, so it is easy for us to see that we didn’t do something well.
I have been in a “major stage of processing” too since being diagnosed less than a year ago at the age of 48. It is difficult in thinking about so many things from like that make so much sense now that I know I have AD/HD. A new job that with lots of paperwork and an organizational nightmare helped me realize and diagnose myself before I was officially diagnosed. My hormones may have played a part as well although I am on the other spectrum of the hormone deal at age 47 when diagnosed. It is just a lot for me to process and lots to think about. I have been successful and no one would know I had it. I have only revealed it to my family who don’t live close and don’t really realize what I am going through because I don’t think anyone “sees” there being anything wrong with me. I haven’t determined the fine line between sharing my difficulties with them and keeping them to myself as I would not want them to feel any guilt about me not being diagnosed.
I don’t blame them and actually believe that in a different family I probably wouldn’t be where I am today as I wouldn’t have wanted to go to college at all if it wasn’t my family’s strong belief in education.
What really made me connect with you even more was your comment on your blog about knowing nothing else to do right now but write. I have been doing that so much. I have literally written about 750 typewritten pages of journal since diagnosis. That is not an exaggerated number. I write and my psychologist actually has read it all too. The funny thing is I hated writing my whole life. I just thought I didn’t like writing. I never realized it was because I had a hard time organizing my thoughts. My journal is wonderful as I don’t have to organize my thoughts I just try to keep up with typing as they pop in my head. It is a good thing I can type really fast.
You have had a lot going on over a short period of time with college, marriage, and two children, one of which is a special needs child. All of that would be a challenge for any person, just remember that. Prior to medication I was so tired all of the time (my whole life) so I am sure you have trouble getting enough rest.
Just curious, do you have trouble sleeping at night or do you sleep well? Many people with AD/HD have restless leg syndrome which prevents them from sleeping well. Both AD/HD and restless leg syndrome are linked to a depletion of dopamine. Iron may help the restless leg syndrome or sleep medication may be required. The doctor would need to check your hemoglobin and hematocrit, an iron level and a ferritin level. The ferritin level should be above 50 to help with restless leg syndrome. I have been taking iron for almost a year and my level is still not there yet and I am not missing my medicine either. Getting enough sleep will help somewhat with your energy.
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